Grief Coaching

GRIEF OF THE HEART TO HAPPINESS

You are in the right place, right here, right now………to transform the grief that you are experiencing to happiness.  You can heal quicker and easier by following a recipe for success that has proven to help others in their grief recovery.

I will explain in detail three simple secrets that you can implement into life today that will shift your mindset from the pain and heartbreak you are experiencing to the inner peace you are seeking for your heart.

It is my wish for you that you have the willingness to change the vicious cycle of the thoughts that keep you stuck in the pain.  This is the first step in the process of change is the willingness to make the changes, and to step into the unknown territory of your future where you will be recreating a new design for living.

What I have found over the years of dealing with grief and pain is that it affects every aspect of our life not just the relationship that was lost.  When you are stuck in your pain, you will find you will be stuck in other areas of your life as well.  When you begin to change one area of your life, you will find all areas will open up and you can create a life of your dreams.  Suddenly, the universe will begin to open up new pathways for you and you will begin to attract those desires easily and effortlessly into your life so you can be happy and at peace once again.

We are taught how to acquire things in our life to make us happy; however, we are not taught how to handle life when we experience a loss.  When life takes away people, places and things which are not under our control, we simply just don’t know what to do, how to move forward, and trust in life is shattered.  Our entire world can come crashing down in a split second and society does not teach us what to do next.  In this report, you will understand some common myths that society teaches us from a small child that are not true in grief recovery.  So let’s get started……..

It was my personal journey of loss over the last 51 years that has really given me a Ph.D. in Grief Coaching.  I was given up for adoption at birth and lived in a foster home until I was 6 months old at which time I was adopted by a wonderful family.  However, being adopted and knowing I was given away created a whole other set of abandonment and loss issues while I was growing up.  In 1978, the only mom I had known died from Breast Cancer six months after the birth of my first child.  In 1980, my husband was suddenly killed in a car accident at the age of 25.  I was 21 yrs. old left with two babies to raise alone.  This was my first life lesson in letting go of what I thought my life would be to what now?  I grieved for years not knowing how to deal with the pain.  It wasn’t until I moved to California from Rochester, New York to attend college that I started feeling like I could live again.  I graduated from California State University with a B.S. Degree in Business Administration while raising two kids and working.  In 1992, I married again, but after one year, I knew I had made a big mistake and I divorced.  It was an abusive situation and a terrible divorce in which I had to start all over again dealing with cumulative grief this time, but not knowing what to do or how to deal with the pain.  However, the last year and a half would be the catalyst for change.  My Dad got very ill with Dementia and the thought of losing him threw me into a tail spin.  My children could not handle my emotional state and they cut me out of their lives along with my 4 grandchildren.  I was devastated and in so much pain without them, I didn’t know what to do.  What do you do when you don’t know how to relieve that pain?  I searched out answers and studied with several coaches and trainers.  I went to traditional therapy and even used my own coaching techniques and self- hypnosis to alleviate the pain, but nothing seemed to work permanently until I met Aurora Winter at the Grief Coaching Academy.  The tools and techniques I learned there changed my life.  I quickly realized that Grief Recovery Coaching is my soul’s purpose.  It was very clear that all the grief and loss that I had experienced all my life was for a purpose.  It was there to show me that I could learn from it, grow from it and help others do the same.  It would be my pleasure to assist you in your inner and outer transformation going from Grief to Gratitude.

COMMON MYTHS ABOUT GRIEF THAT WILL KEEP YOU STUCK

There are six common myths that I have discovered through my training as a Grief Recovery Coach that I believe contribute to keeping you stuck.  These are quick fixes that society teaches us from a small child when dealing with any loss.

Myth #1 

Time Heals All Wounds –  I’m here to tell you that just isn’t true.  I remember when my husband died everyone said to me, “Give it time and you will heal”.  Well, I’m here to tell you that 5 years later I was asking myself, “When will the pain ever go away? I’ve given it 5 yrs.”

This common myth, I believe, is responsible for so much suffering in this world after a loss because you never get over the pain unless you take the proper action steps.  There is a piece of your soul that is disconnected when you experience a loss that just doesn’t create wholeness again with the passing of time.

Therefore, time itself doesn’t heal the pain of loss, but it is the action steps within that time that helps create the transformation from a broken heart to a peaceful heart regaining wholeness once again.  A broken heart is a lot like a broken leg.  If you broke a leg, you wouldn’t just give it time to heal would you?  No, you would take the necessary steps to go to the hospital and get a cast then wait for the body to heal in time.  Well, that is the same thing with a broken heart, time alone doesn’t heal it.  It takes the necessary action steps to heal from the broken heart to the peaceful heart.

Time Magazine statistics show that it takes 5 to 10 yrs. to heal from grief due to a loss.  Well, I’m here to tell you, it doesn’t have to take that long with the right coach, support, and tools for recovery.

Myth #2 

Grieve Alone – Another untrue myth on the path to recovery.   I believe isolation is the worse thing you can do for yourself after a loss.  In our society sometimes people will say, “Just give her/him some space to be alone to heal”.  It has been my experience that my thoughts when I’m alone are more dangerous than my thoughts when I’m around others in a supportive environment.  Your mind can conjure up all sorts of illusions when you’re alone, but to talk with someone who understands your loss and can tell you, “You’re not alone, I’m here to support you”, makes all the difference in the world in grief recovery.

When I walked into the Grief Coaching Academy and I was surrounded by other individuals who had experienced a life shattering loss or two or three, I knew I was home.  They understood the pain, the struggle, the identity crisis and all the emotions that I knew.  I was amongst the greatest support system I could ever imagine.

Don’t do this alone.  You need a support system.  You need people who understand what you’re going through and will support you through the challenges of rebuilding your life again, and share the wisdom of grief recovery.  You can join my community here by buying one of on-line programs, coaching with me personally or attending one of my Healing Retreats.  You don’t have to do this alone!

Myth #3

Replace The Loss –  This is yet another myth that never works in regards to a loss.  Often times, this is what a griever will do to fill that hole in their life that is missing.

How many times do you hear after someone gets a divorce that they immediately replace their spouse with another person?  That somehow replacing that missing person with someone different will make everything better.  Well, if you haven’t healed and resolved the issues regarding that loss then most often a new partner is attracted that is exactly the same as the one you just divorced only this new partner comes in a different body with the same issues.  It is so important to not replace the loss, but to heal that part of you that you see in the other person.  All relationships are mirror images of ourselves, so if there is something you don’t like in someone else chances are that you have that quality in yourself.  Therefore, you cannot see anything outside yourself that doesn’t come from within yourself.

In my program, “The Pathway To The Peaceful Heart”, you will learn how to resolve all the issues surrounding the loss, release the old baggage, and move forward with a clean slate.  Once you are aware of the issues, you can heal, and move forward into a new life with a renewed sense of confidence and identity to attract healthy relationships into life.

Myth #4

Don’t Feel Bad –  I don’t understand how this one because it truly denies the feelings and emotions associated with a loss.  If I pretend I don’t feel bad then it will go away.  Well, I’m here to tell you, that is a recipe for disaster.

When you are unable to express your feelings because you have been told by others not to feel bad, you bury these feeling and emotions in the cells of your body.  This is the first stage of “dis-ease” which eventually turns into Disease of the body.  You must express and feel the feelings to release them.  The only way to heal is to feel.

There are many diseases today that are directly related to stress, emotions, attitudes and belief systems.  I could write a book about this and my training in Medical Intuition, Chinese Medicine, and Acupressure.  However, for this special report, let me just say that it isn’t healthy to withhold feelings related to grief and loss.